Ventilation System

OK, so this post is going to be entirely bitchy and when reading it, you have to imagine me yelling it at a horrible inconsiderate wench who is absolutely clueless.

Some background info: I had someone tell me that they know EXACTLY how I feel, with JP being gone, because she was a single mother for 8 years after she divorced her husband.

No, you don't know. You have no fucking clue. This is nowhere near the same. You left him, a horrible abusive drunk who smacked you around and threatened your kids. Your life was BETTER without him. You did not lie awake nights wishing he was sleeping next to you breathing excessively loud.

The man missing from my bed, from my life is the best man ever created. He loves me, he treats me like a queen. He lets me have my way pretty much all the time. He makes me feel like there is nothing I can't do. He gives me the courage and support to be a better person. YOUR husband called you a piece of shit, and treated you as such. I love my husband with all my heart, and I MISS HIM EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY. You worried in those first few months that yours would FIND you.

The only thing in common in the two situations is that yes, we both have to raise kids alone. We both do it with fear, yours is a fear of him returning. My greatest fear is that he won't.

Not the same. Don't ever say "I know JUST how you feel... because until you've done this, you have no clue. I hope you never have to know firsthand what this feels like, because it is heart wrenching.


OK, there, got that out of my system. I vent here because I'm just too friggin' nice to actually scream that stuff. I'd probably burst into tears within the first few words. It just feels better to get it out somewhere.