Indecisiveness

It's been wonderful having him home. I have realized, however, that I had conveniently forgotten some stuff that irks me about him...

He is indecisive. I don't mean that he says "I don't know" when I ask him what he wants to do today. I mean he says "I don't care"

He's been this way as long as I've known him, and I guess, if I think hard and remember back, my reaction to this was to roll my eyes and make the decision myself. Maybe it just sticks out now as an "irk" because I have been making ALL the decisions for the past almost 2 years, and I feel like I want to include him, it's his right, as the other adult member of this family, to have a vote. Maybe I feel like I'm tired of making all the decisions, and perhaps he could take charge on a few, like what we're doing today, or what we should have for supper.

But honestly, is it too much to ask to get a real answer?

Honey, what do you want for supper?
I don't care.

COME ON!! Say 'meatloaf' or 'spaghetti', something, ANYTHING... have a freakin' opinion!

Some may say that this is a wonderful thing, and I should be grateful that he is not so domineering and isn't one of those 'my way or the highway' kind of guys. I get that, I appreciate that. That is, in fact, how I ended up with my children named the way I wanted, it's how I got my dog, and my second dog, and my cat, and my Kia... he usually lets me have my way. I do appreciate that, and in fact, I really love it... about the big things.

But dinner? Come on, please?

say "not chicken alfredo" at the very least...

Maybe he is doing this on purpose, maybe he is worried about coming back and rocking the boat, taking charge like a real dick, you know? I know he still reads this, so I'm hoping he will check back within the next couple of days and see that I DO want to hear his opinions, and I do value them, and I DO care what he thinks, and I DON'T see his opinions as a threat to the way I have been running this house since he's been gone.

I know, I should just sit down and talk to him about it, and I will tonight. That is one thing that we have been doing pretty good at, talking about things that have changed and how it affects us both. Maybe I was just using this post as a vent to collect my thoughts for the talk we will have later tonight.

Yeah, I've decided, that must be it.
See that? I made a decision... about something minute and small. I will talk to JP tonight about him and his lack of opinion.
It's not so tough, ya know...